Have I made a mistake by breaking up with my girlfriend?
Aug 15th, 2009 | By oldhippydude | Category: Singles & Dating
Cimmeron M asked:
I was sitting in my girlfriends (of 8 months) car with her, listening to music and i suddenly had a Panic Attack. Now I didn’t let her know i was panicing… id probably say i was feeling VERY anxious… Now i started to ask myself, do i really want to be with her. After thinking about this i presented this problem to her, and said I couldnt be with her anymore and as soon as i did it I withdrew it coz i realised i may be making a mistake. So the next day I saw her and everything was fine… and then when she left me I paniced again.. and I had to get away from house… So i ran around the block to get my head right. The next day I saw her, and this time I told her i was panicing and I needed her 2 stay through it with me as I thought i was losing my mind. Then the next day (alot of days) I was with her and realised that the flame had gone in our relationship. I dont know why my emotions for her were yoyoing up and down so much… Also prior to this emotion I lost my job… and the anxious feeling came when I went to her new flat. My dad is depressed at the moment.. and I have comeone harrassing me about money I owe them. I broke up with her on that day, and the anxious feeling went… but im now thinking about her and how good she was too me and I think ive made a mistake… and maybe my panicing wasn’t initially about her. I look at her pictures and I think what have i done….
The thing about me and her is that we had a good relationship and didnt really argue alot, but we didnt really go out together much… and maybe that is an issue.
I was sitting in my girlfriends (of 8 months) car with her, listening to music and i suddenly had a Panic Attack. Now I didn’t let her know i was panicing… id probably say i was feeling VERY anxious… Now i started to ask myself, do i really want to be with her. After thinking about this i presented this problem to her, and said I couldnt be with her anymore and as soon as i did it I withdrew it coz i realised i may be making a mistake. So the next day I saw her and everything was fine… and then when she left me I paniced again.. and I had to get away from house… So i ran around the block to get my head right. The next day I saw her, and this time I told her i was panicing and I needed her 2 stay through it with me as I thought i was losing my mind. Then the next day (alot of days) I was with her and realised that the flame had gone in our relationship. I dont know why my emotions for her were yoyoing up and down so much… Also prior to this emotion I lost my job… and the anxious feeling came when I went to her new flat. My dad is depressed at the moment.. and I have comeone harrassing me about money I owe them. I broke up with her on that day, and the anxious feeling went… but im now thinking about her and how good she was too me and I think ive made a mistake… and maybe my panicing wasn’t initially about her. I look at her pictures and I think what have i done….
The thing about me and her is that we had a good relationship and didnt really argue alot, but we didnt really go out together much… and maybe that is an issue.
I need serious advice on this as Im so confused.. and to be honest I’m starting to feel anxious again..
She said something to me which i wont forget which is – ‘you are basing 8 months of good relationship’ on how you are feeling for one week… Im not going to lie this feeling came out of nowhere and it obviously shocked me. I still dont feel like myself and I still feel anxious..
Have I made a mistake??
thank you
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I think maybe you should straighten your own problems out before asking her out again. Fill out several applications, and go to interviews. When you have a job again, save up the money and pay the man back. Visit your Dad often and bring him something you know he likes. Eat lunch with him, or grab a coffee together. Keep in touch with your girlfriend and tell her that you want to get back together in time. And for the present want to stay close friends.
Please answer mine:
fix your personal problem first and learn how to handle your own problem..you actually owe to her an apology..she became your shock absorber..
Truthfully? She isn’t your problem. you need to talk to a professional.
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It might be early on, but it sounds like you feelings are changing for her. If you want to end it, you should, rather then dragging it on.
So no, you did not make a mistake. You have been open and honest with her, and that’s very respectful.
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First of all, you need to get help for your anxiety. Your GF has nothing to do with your other problems. See a Dr and get some therapy. After you get well you can decide whether you are ready for a relationship or not. Don’t rush it.
maybe you guys should take a break. just a short one while u straighte ur own problems out.
good luck…help me answer this question!!
i recently went throgh panic attacks along with my ncs heart disorder and i also questioned my relationship but prior to that i was under a lot of pressure and emotional stress and it turned out it wasnt my bf it was MY problems and we “took a break” so i could sort all my stress and thats when i realized it wasnt him like i said b 4 i hope i answered ur question
You need to explain everything to her. Don’t leave anything out. tell her what you said on here. She needs to know that you still care about her. She may be able to help you overcome this. If you had something good you shouldn’t just throw it away. Maybe you have an anxiety problem. Maybe you should see your doctor. Your problem has nothing to do with her if you broke up and you still feel that way.
just take time to realize things first, and before making any decision… wait a few days first, wait til the “high” wears off. What I mean is the effect of stress on you… dont make decisions when you’re mad.’