Is it better to stay friends after breaking up, or to break it off clean?
Oct 1st, 2009 | By oldhippydude | Category: Singles & Dating
Queenloopy asked:
I would just like some opinions/stories of your experiences after breaking up with someone you were in love with. Is it better to try and be friends, or make a clean break?
I would just like some opinions/stories of your experiences after breaking up with someone you were in love with. Is it better to try and be friends, or make a clean break?
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I dated a man for three years and we’re now best friends.
The only thing thats tricky is every once in a while you will be hanging out and old feelings will creep up.
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You can’t be friends after you date someone.
Just break it off clean.
Well, it really depends on what you want. I wasn’t friends with my exboyfriend for a really long time, then we decided to try and be friends and it works at times, but then sometimes it doesn’t. If we are hanging out and we happen to be with other couples, it gets kind of weird and I forget, oh yeah we’re not dating anymore and then it makes me think about it all over again! so at some points, its hard. but that’s just me, that i’m kind of not over it. if you’re both okay that you’re not together anymore, than yeah you should be friends. it’s better to talk and have some sort of a relationship than to be nothing. hope this helps.
from my experiences, ive found that it is always better to make a clean break, no matter how tempting the “friends” thing seems. with trying to be friends, its almost like trying to continue a relationship that obviously isn’t working, and you cant just start ignoring all the romantic aspects of it all. hope this helps!
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you definitely need some cooldown time. at least a few months or so, to adjust to life without them. Then, you can be friends as long as it doesn’t interfere with having a relationship with someone new.
It depends on the relationship. Sometimes you can be friends, other times a clean break is best.
I’ve done both. Some of my best friends are guys I’ve tried dating but couldn’t work it out romantically, but I still love hanging out with them. I do find that a break works best after a break-up untill you’d be comfortable with them dating someone else.
I have one ex who I love to hang out with but I get jealous with the thought of him dating anyone else. I have a boyfriend, but obviously still harbour some feelings towards the ex. In this case, it’s best to just let it go, at least for now. Which is too bad because I count him among my dearest friends.
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well I think it depends on how the break up went and as well as how the other person feels on the subject matter. I think that if it is possible to be friends then go for it.
Catherine
Stay friends cause then you can still get some when ya need some and it should be pretty easy even if he is in another relationship.
it really is all up to u n if u still wnt to be friends or not… cuz i have sum ex bf’s dat r freinds n sum dat rnt worth having as friends (so im NOT friends wit da ones dat r jackasses….) but its all up to u if u think u can make it work as a friendship den try bein friends but if u dnt think u can den kick dem to da crub… but its up to u n not all these ppl dat ur asking for help cause we all have different opinions n stuff… so it all depeneds if ur up to it or not… so ur choice ur feelings… so good luck wit ur decision…
There is only 1 bf that I have been able to stay friends with and he was my longest relationship – 4 years. I think I knew that we werent right a couple of years into the relationship but I couldn’t make the break. Eventually I did, and by that stage it was almost a joint decision (helped with me moving out). We have been able to be friends since and he has been there as a friend – truly understanding. We both have partners now.
But I think you can be friends, as long as you both feel the same, and you also need time apart when you do break up just so your hearts can heal…
It can be a really neat friendship – so long as you keep it as that – dont confuse things.
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from previous experience, i do believe you can remain friends with an ex, but it’s not possible for things to “be the same” anymore, so in my opinion, i’d say to just not trouble things more and stay aquaintances.